If You Do This You Can’t Do That

The girl I left behind.  I do write often and keep in touch but miss them all very much.


This year is bring so many choices that are so bitter sweet.  The title of this blog is the motto at the teacher’s college at the time I graduated in 1963.  They warned me life would be full of choices that would cause pain as well as happiness and I would have to decide which would be best.  When Norman was with me it didn’t seem to be such hard choices.  Usually one was clearly better than the other but now with just me to make that choice I find can’t “have my cake and eat it too”  As you can see I am a collector of old sayings and have dozens more of these, if it will help me I will use all of them.  I have thought of Patty a lot these last two day and miss her Wednesday visits so very much but still know I made the right decision for me to come here.  Luke and I are getting very close.  He has inherited my father’s mathematics skills.  He can do more number work in his head than I can at this point and like my father he can’t really explain how he comes up with the answers.  I am just afraid if I make him write down all the work or annualize it too much he will lose the mental skill he has on the other hand I hope the method he has will work when we get to the more complicated  problem.  So now that we are doing Algebra I I am making him do some of the work on paper or at least write the steps just to be sure he is thinking and working on a method that will work even up into calculus.   I got an old Algebra I book that introduces it step by step and has the practice you need to learn Algebra as that is the tool you need to learn and use the higher maths

The weather here remains rather cool.  We got a good coating of snow more than a week ago now and it is still with us.  No melting now.  The mountains are really covered and get more every day.  The ski resorts love this and it is pretty as long as I don’t have to go out in it.  The house has still not closed.  The sale is still pending.  With an FHA loan there are so many inspections and reports that are needed  it seems like there is always one more.  The poor buyer is having to pay for all of these.  I had to make some repairs the bank wanted done and I did those with no argument, now it is just one report after another that the buyer has to pay for.  The FHA loan may not require much down but the nickel and dime the buyer to death with costs for this and cost for that.  I don’t think I would ever want to go FHA if I could get around it.

Time to clean up my act and enjoy every minute I have with any of my children.  I am not one to regret anything, it does no good and in this case I would have so much to regret either way I go  so ” suck it up Baby” and be happy for all the wonderful loved ones you have near or far.  I really would not change a thing except the obvious  so Have a great day, I know I will.  Love to all – Ouma

About Carol (Ouma) Petts

I am a retired teacher. I have taught all levels from kindergarten through college and have been retired now for over 20 years. The last ten years we have lived on a farm and lived off the land, growing our own food and canning for our extended family. Now we have sold the farm and are moving to Florida to truly retire. I guess I have always had a short attention span as this is our 11th move. We have moved from a small farm in New Hampshire, to more city type living, small business adventures, focusing more on traveling, Florida living, Georgia, and Tennessee farming and now back to Florida. My blog is a way to keep my children up to date on what I am doing and letting them know I am still alive and well. My children are spread across the country from New England to Florida, Nova Scotia to New Mexico and CA and several places between, They let me know what they are up to by commenting on my blog but they are so busy with their own lives most times I have to assume " no news is good news". Now I are starting on a new adventure so will try to give daily updates until we get settled into a routine. Then I know even if I am getting older and should settle down I will start looking for some new and exciting adventure to start. Welcome aboard. Norman died Oct 30, 2017 so I am continuing the journey alone with the aid of my children, grand children and great grand children. At present I am living with my daughter and we are 7 in one house and cover four generations. We range in age from 7 to 85 and are finding common ground, we are living proof that multi generations can live and function in a three bedroom house if they really want to. Soon my grandson will have his house built next door so we all will have a room of their own except for the seven year old twins who by choice will share a room.
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