Facing Our Own Mortality

As I get older I have had to face my own mortality several times.  We learn many different ways that one day we will die but when we are young that is not every in our thoughts.  When Joe was little several times he did something he knew he should not and of course got hurt and each time as we took him to the hospital he said” See I didn’t kill myself.”  so even though I worried about it, dieting was never in his thoughts as deciding to do this or that.  Last week Regina was here working on her home work with me and as she looked around trying to find something else to think about other than learning to spell she noticed for the first time how wrinkled my upper arms are.  She reached out with her finger and touched the soft underside of my upper arm and asked in a very serious voice,” How did that get so wrinkled?”  I don’t think she had ever thought of me as old or even noticed it before..  I just looked at her and said, “That happens when you have been around as long as I have.”   She asked how long I had been around and I told her 83 years.  She thought for a minute and then asked if she would get like that too.  I told her yes, but not for a long, long time yet.  Then she looked at Norman and noticed for the first time that he looked old too and in a whisper asked how “How long has he been around?”  I told her “He has been around 85 years.”  She looked long and hard at him and so I added, “He was two years old when I was born.”  She looked very surprised to think that he was ever two years old, then got very quiet.  She then got back to her work but kept looking at my arms and then at hers.  I think that was the first time she had ever really thought that she could get old.  I didn’t mention anything about me dying before she got that old, I thought just thinking about getting old is enough for a 6 year old to worry about.  Today she comes over again after school and we will be back to that battle of homework.  I am glad I didn’t have home work to do in the first grade.  I gave my mother enough head aches without fighting over homework in the first grade.  Today Gina has finished almost all of this weeks required homework so we will finish that up and then act out to story “The Princess on the Glass Hill.”  I have the knights and my small Barbie dolls will play the  parts of Boots and the Princess so as I read the story to her she can make them act out the story.  She loves to pretend so she should have a good time with this and maybe it will inspire her to read the story herself another day.

Norman and I went for our flu shots this morning.  That is the only medicine we take and we do that only because we always have and think it would be foolish not to have the shot while we are here in the city and exposed to so many people.  Norman went for his eye shot last week but the doctor would not give it to him because his eye pressure was so high.  The nurse took the pressure and got 26.  Dr Paul said he could not give him the shot when it was that high and to make sure she read it correctly he took the pressure again and got 27.  He has exfoliating cataracts and Dr Paul thinks the foliation is clogging up the drainage system in his eye and if he gave Norman the shot for his macular degeneration on top of that high pressure it would really harm his sight so he gave Norman some medicine to use this week to help unclog the drainage system in the eye and he goes in the 30th of this month to see if the pressure is better and if so he will get his shot then.  I hope it is better as he can’t have the cataract operation when it is that high either and he can’t have it  without first getting the shot for the macular degeneration.  So we are in a catch 22 situation right now which doesn’t make for a very happy camper.  Norman tries very hard not to worry but I know he is worried and so am I.  Pray for him.  Have a great day.

About Carol (Ouma) Petts

I am a retired teacher. I have taught all levels from kindergarten through college and have been retired now for over 20 years. The last ten years we have lived on a farm and lived off the land, growing our own food and canning for our extended family. Now we have sold the farm and are moving to Florida to truly retire. I guess I have always had a short attention span as this is our 11th move. We have moved from a small farm in New Hampshire, to more city type living, small business adventures, focusing more on traveling, Florida living, Georgia, and Tennessee farming and now back to Florida. My blog is a way to keep my children up to date on what I am doing and letting them know I am still alive and well. My children are spread across the country from New England to Florida, Nova Scotia to New Mexico and CA and several places between, They let me know what they are up to by commenting on my blog but they are so busy with their own lives most times I have to assume " no news is good news". Now I are starting on a new adventure so will try to give daily updates until we get settled into a routine. Then I know even if I am getting older and should settle down I will start looking for some new and exciting adventure to start. Welcome aboard. Norman died Oct 30, 2017 so I am continuing the journey alone with the aid of my children, grand children and great grand children. At present I am living with my daughter and we are 7 in one house and cover four generations. We range in age from 7 to 85 and are finding common ground, we are living proof that multi generations can live and function in a three bedroom house if they really want to. Soon my grandson will have his house built next door so we all will have a room of their own except for the seven year old twins who by choice will share a room.
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2 Responses to Facing Our Own Mortality

  1. Shanti says:

    It is really scary, and this is the time I am grateful for the miracle of medicine. I know you both try to avoid it it, but I am grateful you are taking the drugs. Our prayers are with Dad for health and sight, and strength to go through all this. Love to you.

    • Thank you, we both know you always have our backs and it gives us a great peace of mind knowing you are there. Phil called yesterday and said his operations will be Nov 18th and the doctor is hopeful it will be a complete cure and he will have full use of his whole digestive system after the operation and time to get over it. So things are looking up all the time. I’ll keep you posted of Dad after he goes for his shot on the 30th and his tests on Nov2 getting ready for the operation on Nov 17th. Love you Mom

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